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12 February 2014 @ 10:16 pm
Where I whine and feel sorry for myself...and then hopefully snap out of it  
We were SO DAMN close to having a buyer for our house. Last Sat a lovely couple were scheduled for their 3rd showing and it was 95% sure we were getting an offer. This couple was perfect for my house...young couple, first home, and they really "get" the character and charm of a house that was built in 1929. A half hour before the scheduled showing they had to cancel due to a medical emergency. We were disappointed, but our realtor assured us the couple was still interested and would be rescheduling asap. So the next day C and I hit up some open houses where I absolutely fell in love with a house. It's the perfect house for us, and in my top choice neighborhood. I spent 45 minutes in the house...I'm serious ya'll, if I could have written an offer right then and there I would have. I got in the car and sent an excited text to my husband (who was working) and then found out the reason the nice couple had to cancel the day before. The woman may have breast cancer.

My heart sank, and I'll be honest--it was a mixture of being so sad for this couple and being sad for myself. I'm not proud of this, though I can honestly say my first thought was for the woman and not my own selfish needs. Anyway, I've been heartbroken since then. I really don't have any hope that we'll find another buyer soon enough to be in the position to make an offer on my dream house.

So here we are, basically back at square one. Our realtor is a huge DB (douche bag for your Kirsteen :) and has been underperforming for the past 5 months. Thankfully, our contract with him expires on March 6th. So for now our plan is to let the rest of the month ride and spend our time finding another realtor. We are also going to approach the church next door and offer to sell our house to them for $10k under appraised value.

I'm sitting here tonight feeling totally sorry for myself. We have a foot of snow outside and I hurt my back 2 weeks ago shoveling in the last major storm so I can't help dig us out. Kevin is sick and worked all day, and I feel horribly guilty that he has to wake up tomorrow and shovel at least a foot of snow (more snow coming overnight, for the love of god save me) I'm also feeling fat and out of shape because I can't work out much with my back, and BLEH I'm whiny.

I really need to focus on the fact that we don't have a financial need to sell this house. We aren't well off, but have enough money for everything we need and most of what we want. We are all healthy (with the exception of my fatness) and happy. I'm basically pouting right now, which isn't fun for me.
 
 
 
voyageofdreamsvoyageofdreams on February 14th, 2014 11:43 am (UTC)
I LOLed at 'Douche Bag for Kirsteen' because you know I totally read DB and was like 'DB? What's DB?'

We were in a similar situation with our first house, and even had a contract on it. The day before the contract pending period in which you can still pull out without financial loss (you know the period in which can get inspections and things done) our immediate neighbour put their house on the market. When our buyers came to the house One last time they saw our neighbours house, decided to view it and because it had all bedrooms on one level decided to buy that instead. I was so livid! We had booked our return to Australia at that time and everything (I'm sure I wrote about it). </p>

So I get how angry you might be at the situation and that's so completely normal (breast cancer or not). Selling a house is like being held in a holding pattern for your next step in life and that's extremely frustrating. All I can say is there might be a bigger and better plan waiting for you - there might be a house that is even better then the one you saw or in a better location or maybe you need to wait because the next offer is going to be a strong offer. Idk.

In the end the people that bought my neighbours house had so many issues from what I was told by my other neighbour friends. They had had their first baby in that house and the upstairs bathroom (where all the bedrooms were) kept flooding the down stairs dinning room. They sold up not long after. I do feel bad for them but meh, that was a very stressful time for sure.

Shannon: I pinchshashafrash on February 14th, 2014 01:09 pm (UTC)
I do remember that now that you mention it. Having to move back to Australia I'm sure added so many more layers of stress!! I underestimated how frustrating it would be to have the house on the market (and how stressful!). We've had a few other potential buyers come through for 2nd showings but they all dropped for whatever reasons, and it didn't bother me that much because I figured there wasn't anything out there that I loved. This time though, finding that other house is making things much more difficult.

I know that everything will turn out fine, and I am in general upbeat about the process. Last night though I was just down in the dumps and super whiny. Hopefully that has passed.
couchtiger: tiger on your couchcouchtiger on February 14th, 2014 03:08 pm (UTC)
I am totally over all the snow. I can never get the baby to nap long enough to tackle the shoveling so we end up doing it late at night in the dark after the kids go to bed. I'm SO OVER IT.

Sorry you're not getting to your routines. But I see your pics on facebook and you're not fat. That doesn't make it suck any less when you want to get your workout...but rest assured that even if you feel bad, you don't look it. :)